I often think about what the important messages are that I want to pass on to my children. Lee’s article below really hammers home the importance of teaching self love and having that mindset engrained in you, from the start. I will take this as one of my lessons to teach! But for the rest of us that are already on this life journey, below are some great approaches to get accustomed to. Stay fabulous xx
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Being YOU takes no effort.
It takes no effort to be confident to be YOU.
It takes great effort to try to be somebody other than yourself.
Efforting to be somebody else is exhausting.
Efforting to look like a super-model is exhausting.
Efforting to make our bodies meet the cultural dictates of the fashion industry is exhausting.
Realise that, being YOU takes NO EFFORT!
It takes no effort to be YOU. When you are totally in love with yourself, you give yourself permission to go out and, well, just be YOU!
One of the first places that we can go out into the world and just be ourselves, is through body-confidence. The fastest way to become body-confident is through self love.
Self love IS the key to body confidence.
The subject of self love often appears when I’m working with clients and it is usually met with the revelatory retort… “But, how do I love myself? I’ve never been told that was important. I’ve never been told how to do that.”
Body confidence starts with self love. Here are some simple self-help tips on how you can love yourself.
Fall in love with yourself – Think of yourself as being a beautiful flower. A flower needs nourishing soil, it needs sunshine, it needs watering and it needs a nurturing environment. Take a moment to use that metaphor to reflect on your own life situation. How is the flower that is you, self-loved? I’m not inviting you to stand in soil, in the sunshine and pour water over yourself (though that’d be quite sensory). I’m inviting you to deeply consider the environmental changes that you can make that will allow you to fall in love with yourself, deeper and deeper. Love yourself for all the good that you see and be kind and gentle to perceived imperfections. Be YOU, it takes no effort.
Look after your Body – This is sooooo fundamental to self love. Your body is your temple, it is the only place you have to live and worship from. It is your responsibility to keep the temple loved, respected and cared for. Nutrition, exercise, sleep, fun and spiritual practice all contribute to a respected body.
Learn to see beauty – When you can see the beauty in everything, you open yourself to seeing the beauty in yourself. See the beauty in other people, the babble of a brook, the struggle of a dad, the blush in a mirror.
The truth is that the barriers we experience to body confidence are invisible ones that live inside of us. We may not even know they are there, but they have a tremendous impact on our lives. And until we are willing to identify and move through those barriers, creating change at the most profound levels of our being, we won’t be able to truly live our greatest future, not to mention go out and create a new world.
So. How could you give yourself more self love today?
How could you express that self love as body confidence?
How could your body confidence allow you to just be you? Yay.
What are you going to do with all the energy you have liberated? Yay.
Be powerful and go make profound changes in the world…